Seven Traits of the Average Pakistani Man

By Atika Rehman 

The following piece is the result of an opinionated writer’s bias. Though the writer herself remains miserably devoid of any male attention, she likes to learn through other people’s experiences. Her piece is based on the experiences of many, many married acquaintances

1. He Loves His Mom

Mom is an infallible angel. The only way to achieve harmony in your relationship with him is to understand this vital fact. Don’t question or contradict this lady who will steer the boat of his life, while you will remain one of the many passengers on-board. She is the average Pakistani mother-in-law and her word will be the final say in most matters – marital or otherwise.

Your bathroom fittings and daily wardrobe may also fall under her probing influence. Her cooking is the benchmark that you should aspire to reach. Aspire only, for you will never be able to match her gourmet skills.

And no, he will not cancel the Khawateen Digest subscription to get you The Economist.

2. He Doesn’t Like The Movies You Like

He might pretend to like Tangled, but he really doesn’t. His tolerance towards movies of the like is a toady façade of politeness, an attempt to ingratiate himself with you (for nuptial reasons) or a “please, cheer up” measure after a particularly fiery quarrel, which obviously was all your fault.

He’d rather you give up your chick-flick obsession and watch Hum TV dramas like his mom (preferably with his mom).

He secretly dreads cinema detours because your ladyship has to be driven to a decent restaurant for a meal afterwards and not to Nagan Chowrangi Nihari House where he likes to go with his cronies to eat nihari and drink lassi and burp without embarrassment.

3. He Knows More Swear Words Than You Think He Does

Despite his urbane style, he has a knack for swear words with grotesque sexual connotations. He has picked most of them up on his Nihari eating pursuits at Nagan Chowrangi.

He might seem like a harmless while he placidly puffs on cigarette, but he is silently serenading your ex-boyfriend with a tirade of swear words.

4. Beauty Over Brains – End of Story

No matter what he says to you, he admires your hair more than what lies beneath it. He does not care about your ability to multiply fractions in your head. In fact, he doesn’t want you to multiply fractions at all. All he wants you to multiply is the number of his off spring and the food on his table.

He doesn’t care if you can recite the Odyssey at the drop of a hat (probably hasn’t even heard of that magnificent work).  He prefers that you look pretty and sit silently while passing occasional smiles to his mom on the breakfast table; rather than have spirited discourses on the morning news headlines with his father while bearing huge eye bags because you were up memorising the Odyssey all night.

5. He Loves His Car

Please don’t brush your hair in the car. Step out on the side walk to do it. Buy candy with the money that is tossed at you.

6. He Won’t Notice Your Freshly Plucked Eyebrows

Or your new earrings or your manicure. Aversion to detail has been vested in him by nature itself. He can’t tell cyan from turquoise or fuchsia pink from magenta, or magenta from maroon. It’s either pink or not pink.

No, he will not catch any subtle looks you give. Either you say it in words, or you don’t say it at all. This man is Saeed Ghazi’s nightmare. But yes, he will definitely notice the extra flab you’ve recently acquired while trying to drown your vexations in the ghee-laden gajar ka halwa that his mom’s been making (and secretly eating despite her soaring cholesterol levels.)

7. He Likes Shareef, Sharmeeli & Suggharh Girls

He thinks Sharmila Farooqui is a vile woman whose first name is misleading. He thinks she is an exhibitionist who comes on TV only to display her new hair streaks and designer shalwar kameezes.

Obviously, as an average resigned-to-home Pakistani girl you are thoroughly in awe of the lady’s austere confidence in herself. But no, he does not care about how wrong or right her views are, so stop asking.

What she says can never be of consequence because she is just a “shameless” woman who does not know her place. He thinks women should all sit at home in peace and help reproduce for their husbands.

Shareef girls personify the excellent merits of womanly impassiveness to the extent of having just no opinions at all.

Shareef girls just watch the news, and then gasp, pat their bosoms (Lollywood style), shed a tear or two of commiseration and then quietly recommence the discussion on the news-caster’s wardrobe with the average Pakistani sister-in-law.

Shareef girls don’t discuss the Hudood Ordinance, because shareef girls don’t quite know what the Hudood Ordinance is. They blush prettily at any mention of the Hudood Ordinance and excuse themselves to go and display their sugghrapa in the kitchen, which results in the multiplication of the average Pakistani man’s food supply. Meanwhile, he ogles at Sharmila on television.

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  1. Women – Multiple process

    Women’s brain is designed to concentrate multiple tasks at a time.
    Women can Watch a TV and Talk over phone and cook the new recipe.

    Men – Single Process
    Men’s brain designed to concentrate only one work at a time. Men
    cannot watch a TV and talk over the phone at the same time. He stops the TV while Talking. He can either watch TV or talk over the phone or cook.


    Women can easily learn many languages. Her brain sets up. But cannot find the solutions to problems.
    Men cannot easily learn languages; he can easily solve the problems.
    A 3 year old girl has three times higher vocabulary than a 3 year old boy.


    Men’s brain has lot of space for handling the analytical process. So
    easily he can analyze and find the solution for a process.
    He can design (blue print) a map of a building easily.
    If a complex map is viewed by women, she cannot understand it. She cannot understand the details of the map easily.
    For her it is dump of lines in a paper.


    While driving a car, men’s analytical spaces are used in his brain. He
    can drive a car fast. If he see an object at long distance, immediately his brain classifies the object’s (bus or van or car) direction and speed of the object and drive accordingly. Where as women take a long time to recognize the object direction/ speed. His single process mind stops the audio in the car (if any), then concentrating only on the driving.
    You can often watch, while men are driving the car fast, the women sit
    next to him & shout, “GO SLOW” , “CAREFUL”, “AAHHH”, “OHH GOD..” ..etc..


    Many times, when men lie to women face to face, they get caught easily.
    Her supernatural brain observes the facial expression 70%, and the
    body language 20% and the words coming from the mouth 10%. So he is easily caught while lying.
    Men’s brain does not have this.
    Women easily lie to men face to face.
    So guys, While lying to your girls, use phone, or letter or close all
    the lights or cover your/her face with blanket..


    End of day, if men have lot of problems, his brain clearly classifies the
    problems and puts the problems in individual rooms in the brain and then finds the solution one by one.
    You can see many guys looking at the sky for a long time. If you
    disturb him, he gets irritated.
    End of Day, if women have lot of problems, her brain can not classify the problems. she wants some one to hear that. After telling everything to a person she goes happily to bed. She does not worry about the problem being solved or not.


    Men want STATUS, SUCCESS, solutions, big process… etc
    Women want RELATIONSHIP, friends, family…etc…


    If women are unhappy with their relations, they cannot concentrate on work.
    If men are unhappy with their work, they cannot concentrate on the


    Men can easily locate the place in a complex map. His analytical brain does this.
    While watching a cricket match in a stadium with full of crowd, men can leave his seat to tea shop and keeps everything in his mind and comes back to his seat with out problems. He uses his analytical skills space of brain.
    Women can’t do this. They often lose their way to their seat.


    Life is very easy to Men. One good job,(One alcohol bottle is enough for them – Optional)
    Women want everything in life.


    Women use indirect languages in speech.
    Merlin asked Sam, “Sam do you like to have a cup of coffee?”
    This means, Merlin wants a cup of coffee.

    Men use direct language. “Merlin, I want to have a cup of coffee, Pls stop the car when you see a coffee shop”.


    Women talk a lot without thinking.
    Men act a lot with out thinking.
    That’s why many of prisoners are men all over the world.

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